The Privilege of Solitude

There are revelations hidden within your inner Fortress of Solitude

To make the right choices in life, you have to get in touch with your soul. To do this, you need to experience solitude, which most people are afraid of, because in the silence you hear the truth and know the solutions.

It’s very rare to be able to remove yourself from a busy lifestyle, from the copious expectations associated with living. I was way too busy to even remotely consider solitude. But as it’s done so many times before, “life” steered me towards what I unknowingly needed, which differed completely from what I wanted. On face value, it would appear that my life was destroyed. However, I see now that I have been privileged to be able to take a step back from my life, assess it from a detached perspective and make a conscious decision on its direction. I am very grateful for the faculties I have been allowed to keep and enhance. I feel it is now my responsibility to fully utilise them.

Giver by Nick Verron - You could compare the parent to the soul. They both give you the nourishment you need for living, if you just allow it.

Giver by Nick Verron – You could compare the parent to the soul. They both give you the nourishment you need for living, if you just allow it.

I’m sure you will have heard a similar saying to, “Work to live, not live to work.” I found that in my younger years, I did indeed work to live, solely to help me towards my hopes and dreams. I’m not sure when it happened, but work instead became my life, consuming what had been there before. I forgot why I’d started to work in the first place. The same can be said for my recovery from my brain injury. I’ve lost sight of what I set out to achieve; to be able to live my life to the fullest. Have I made a remarkable recovery to remain in my “external Fortress of Solitude” (a nice house filled with nice things) with no responsibilities or varied challenges? NO!!! I feel like I’m losing myself…

Feel grateful, not unlucky, for the challenges of life; beating them gives purpose to your being. They help you discover who you really are by revealing your opinions, morals, strengths and weaknesses.Although I knew how passionately I felt, I didn’t know what to do about it. With my copious free time, I asked myself what I needed and kept an open mind. I realised I need to experience this glorious world, filled with beautiful sights, amazing history and horizon expanding culture; I need to meet awesome people (like the people on here!) and experience their way of life. My independence was stolen from me on 4 July 2009. I’m ready to be reunited with it. Going travelling in a wheelchair (and a walking frame for getting around indoors), I will inevitaby be faced with many challenges. Therefore, I will find myself.

A problem now arises. I don’t have the money to be able to make this happen. I DO however, have a house. I believe so wholeheartedly in the above, I willΒ sell my house to go travelling. After all, you only have “one life, LIVE IT”.

I started to think that maybe I was dreaming a bit big. Then a friend posted an article by David Wolfe. It said things like:

CONFIRMED: PEOPLE WHO SPEND MONEY ON EXPERIENCES INSTEAD OF THINGS ARE MUCH HAPPIER

Then, a couple of my WordPress friends posted articles on Facebook, linking to the quote I opened with from Deepak Chopra. It all started to make sense. My soul was trying to give me the nourishment I need to live. I just need to allowΒ it. So, I’m selling my house and going travelling, starting with Australia and America. If anyone has a sofa I could use for a night, I would be eternally grateful. If this is not convenient for any reason (I completely understand life doesn’t always allow us to do what we’d like), I’d very much appreciate anybody meeting me just to say “hello” and point me in the direction of local things worth seeing/experiencing. I will use this article as a reference point when on my travels, so anybody who would be kind enough to meet me, please say where you are in the comments. Every time I go somewhere new, I will see if there’s anybody I should contact!

In summary, I may be making a mistake, but what an EPIC MISTAKE. No regrets!

In-the-end-we-only-regret-the-chances-we-didnt-take.

(Click on the picture for an article giving some great advice)


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Posted on April 3, 2016, in My blog, Top Posts and tagged , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 112 Comments.

  1. You are seriously a true inspiration Nick!
    I know it’s a while yet before you go but I trust you will blog for us, updating us on your adventures!
    I wholeheartedly agree with your sentiments. I only wish I’d experienced more before the responsibilities of life grabbed hold of me and my life!

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  2. First again, YESSSSSS!!!!!

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  3. Wow, that is a brave thing to do Nick, but what an adventure you are sure to have! Like Ritu, I will be looking out for your posts to see how you get on πŸ™‚

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  4. Hi Nick, Wow, good on you! πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ Thank you for this post today, you’ve given me more strength to continue with my own dream when I have been feeling like I don’t have enough energy to give to it.

    If you are ever in the Bay Area in California, you are always welcome at my place. I’ve got a comfortable couch and an awesome dog. πŸ™‚

    Éilis

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    • Amazing! I will certainly bear that in mind, and hope to meet you soon. I love dogs. Regarding pursuing dreams, I found a good quote I’ll share with you. It goes, “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams,” by Eleanor Roosevelt.

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  5. Oh, my, you are fearless! I’m not sure I could give up my comfy home. The Buddhists would call it egoic attachment. πŸ˜‰
    Of course, you are welcome here in MA, USA. We’d love to show you the sights and access all the maple cream you desire! πŸ™‚

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  6. Reblogged this on stevetanham and commented:
    The ‘Heart Unafraid’

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  7. Go for it, Nick. Just wish I’d had the courage at your age. But there again, I didn’t have half the challenges you’ve faced – and overcome. Good luck!
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    • Thanks Judith. If I hadn’t had my life shaken up as it has been, there’s no way I’d be doing this. But my priorities have been realigned and I’m now looking for happiness in different places.

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  8. Wow..exciting times ahead. I look forward to your blogs on your travels and if you are in Thailand let me know…..I also upped sticks, burned my boats however you wish to put it..do I have regrets..NO! Lots of my friends said you are brave ..really….just had to do it and to rent my house..too easy to not give it your everything and go back so we agree on that young man.
    Daunting..sometimes..and for you probably more so…..but..exciting and there are some awesome people out there and it’s a big world and one I truly hope you get to see..enjoy and above all stay safe and have a back up plan of some sort…..Good luck with your preparations πŸ™‚

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    • I’d really love to visit Thailand, so if all (I was going to say “goes according to plan”. I would be so lucky!) progresses somehow, I look forward to meeting you! Yes, I indeed feel it’s very important to not have an easy “get out of jail free card”, although I acknowledge it is essential to have some sort of emergency failsafe plan. Even the prospect of this is super daunting. That’s why I will feel such a sense of accomplishment πŸ™‚

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      • Are you going to be travelling solo or have someone with you? Most people I know travel in pairs…

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        • Me too! But I see this as another “get out of jail free card”, and feel I will rely on this person, where I’m instead aiming for independence. I think I can conquer the loneliness. There’ll be MANY physical challenges, but as I love to quote, “Only thoseΒ who will risk goingΒ too farΒ can possibly find out how far one canΒ go.”

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          • Yes you could be right..I don’t think you will have to deal with lonliness though there will be so much to see and experience..I think most of your challenges will be physical not all countries have facilities for wheelchairs for example but even though they don’t here everywhere I have only seen help and kindness if someone needs a bit of a hand and I am sure that will be the same everywhere…..Can’t wait to follow your journey πŸ™‚

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  9. Yeeeeehah!!! πŸ˜€

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  10. How absolutely inspiring – your truth and courage truly light up the screen πŸ™‚ Huge blessings to you on this journey, and I look forward to reading more about it. Thanks Sue Vincent for leading me here… Harula x

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  11. Reblogged this on Richard Ankers and commented:
    You’ve just got to love Nick’s attitude.

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  12. Reblogged this on Anita Dawes & Jaye Marie and commented:
    Best wishes on your travels, Nick. May your courage never falter…

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  13. Now I know what you meant Nick and you weren’t wrong.Good for you! This will be a superb experience for you and I hope you meet the nicest people on your travels. I hope you blog about them too so we can see where you’ve been and share the experience vicariously.
    Hugs

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    • My journey will be an experience, filled with highs and lows. I just need to appreciate the lows because as Carl Jung said, “The word ‘happiness’ would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.” I have confidence that I will encounter some amazing people! You can be sure I will blog my wonder at the world πŸ™‚

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  14. Brilliant! I noticed your post on FB a few days ago and then your Pigs Might Fly post here. When do you think you will go? I have a couple of contacts in Australia and will see if they have some spare sofa space.

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    • ha ha. I tried to contain myself, but spilled the beans on Facebook! This is very kind of you. I’ve never sold a house before, so have no idea on the timescales involved. I have a couple of bits to do before I contact an estate agent to put my house on the market. I expect they’ll be able to give me some idea…

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  15. You have made an amazing and wonderful choice Nick. My prayers and wishes go with you where ever you wander. Please keep us all updated and if you ever get to Scotland give us a shout, we`ll be glad to meet you.

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  16. Hi Nick, I know you only through your mom and the stories you two share on your blogs, but I’d be honored to host you if you find your travels lead you to the northeast of America. Best wishes to you on your inspirational journey. Alethea

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  17. I read a snippit of this post on Richard Ankers blog and ventured over here to read the rest. That post was just the beginning of a chance of a lifetime and “WOW” to experiencing something, whether good or bad, in order to understand one’s self. What a gift! And the insight to see the adventure, good on you. πŸ™‚

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    • As you say, there are no guarantees as to whether the experience will be good or bad. But throughout it all, I will be more alive than I have been for some time, on an epic journey of self-discovery πŸ™‚

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  18. I wish all the best for you on your travels, Nick. It will certainly give you something to write about. πŸ™‚ — Suzanne

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  19. Nick you have more spirit than anyone I know. Looking forward to meeting you.

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  20. safe and exciting journeys to you, nick!

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  21. If you are in this area, we always have some room for a guest. But we do have steps and no way around them. I wish we didn’t.

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  22. Wow! A BIG step for you, but I praise your decision. Time to live your life. If you make it to North Carolina, we have a spare bedroom (after August – my daughter and her husband are coming to live with us for a while). Stairs are steep, though. We do have a pool, so you can swim, ad it’s generally warm enough here to swim through early October. Right now I’m swimming in 66 degree water – swimming is my fortress of solitude!

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  23. Reblogged this on Smorgasbord – Variety is the spice of life and commented:
    Nick Verron with a very important message for us all. And as we sell our house, declutter and move on to the next adventure, we too are questioning how we spend the next few years whilst fit and able. Four walls and a roof over your head provide security and comfort but they can also restrict your movement through life.

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  24. Awesome, Nick! I agree totally with your point of view, and you will have some extraordinary adventures I’m sure! When in Aus I hope you get the chance to go to Melbourne – it’s a beautiful city, art, culture, sport and nature in one place. I lived there for many years so can highly recommend it.
    Safe travels and looking forward to hearing your adventures along the way πŸ™‚

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  25. Nick you are a true inspiration! I applaud your gusto for going after your dreams, something I intend to do before I leave this earth, when the timing is better.
    If you find yourself coming to Toronto, Canada, do give me a shout! ❀

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  26. I’m in Melbourne, Australia. Would love to meet you Nick. You are welcome to stay with me and I will show you around. Cheers πŸ‘

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  27. I read something a while ago that went something like: “Better to have a passport filled with stamps than a house filled with stuff!” Thought you might like it. X

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  28. Hi Nick, So incredibly brave of you to step outside of , err sell, your box πŸ˜‰ ,and even to admit that you’re scared to do so! If you find yourself in Vermont, give us a holler!

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    • That’s a very kind offer. Thanks! I have found that in honestly sharing your hopes, fears, strengths and weaknesses, you can see who you are, how to improve that and fully utilise your skillet.

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  29. Go, go, go, and indeed keep us posted. Thinking on the same lines here. I love this quote by Mark Twain: β€œTwenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines, sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain

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    • Oh brilliant! When I was writing this, that quote was in the back of my mind. Although I remembered the message, I could not for the life of me remember the specific combination of words, or who’d said them. That’s why I defaulted to the final picture quote as the next best thing. THANK YOU for reminding me 😁😁😁

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  30. Nick, I have only one thing to say >>> GO FOR IT, DO IT!!!!!! >>> and the very best of luck to you >>> it is far better to try something and – perhaps – to fail, than never to try it at all. Trying things is something I have done in my life, and something I’m still doing maybe, and I have NEVER regretted trying things. Adrian

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  31. Wow, that’s an amazing step, Nick! My brother did something similar a couple of years ago, & is loving his travels by motorbike πŸ™‚ We’re in Melbourne, Australia, too, in the outer Eastern suburbs, so we could put you up for a night or two & show you some local places – you’d have to put up with our menagerie of dogs & cats though πŸ˜‰

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  32. 0mg how wonderful! Everyone should travel! Some of the best experiences I had were when I travelled, although it took me till my 30s to do it. Most people do it when they are students but I went straight from education to work. You are not defined by your disabilities, Nick. No one is. Why shouldn’t you travel? There is a great big world out there. Live it. Take beautiful photos. Write about it. Write about you. And have a bloody amazing time! It will change you. It changes everyone.

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    • I also went straight from education into work, and have decided to do this now when residing in my 30s.

      It would be very easy to assume I will fail from what some say. They see “disability” as a condition resulting in all restrictions that anybody with any form of disability would face. They do not see disability as it is, a unique set of obstacles which can be combated with a unique set of skills. I know this is indeed the correct way to view it and will not prove others wrong, I will take great pleasure in proving myself right. Right being the operative word; I am a human being, not a disability, and have as much right as any other to experience this world, challenges and all!

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  34. Enjoyed your inspirational post. Best to you on your travels!

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  35. Good luck to you Nick. What an adventure, wish you all the best. Keep us posted! πŸ™‚

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